tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post4059212827879981461..comments2024-01-12T04:51:30.233-05:00Comments on Peggy Payne's Boldness Blog: More and Better ComplainingPeggy Paynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-2597415246297045352007-10-02T11:07:00.000-04:002007-10-02T11:07:00.000-04:00Writing fiction is the primary way I do my own sou...Writing fiction is the primary way I do my own soul-searching. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you liked Revelation. <BR/><BR/>I like your list of cues, by the way. Especially the one about noticing that you're going over something in your head again. I'm going to pay attention to that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-65263827656757154322007-10-01T20:03:00.000-04:002007-10-01T20:03:00.000-04:00Hi Peggy,No, I am not, nor have I ever been an "of...Hi Peggy,<BR/><BR/>No, I am not, nor have I ever been an "official" therapist. I did major in Psychology in college, but that is as far as I ever went with it.<BR/><BR/>When I was volunteering at our local hospital as a Spiritual Care volunteer, I considered becoming a non-denominational chaplain. Unfortunately, that's around the time that my illness became more limiting, and so I had to divertAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-36624564625383204812007-10-01T11:01:00.000-04:002007-10-01T11:01:00.000-04:00Some great ideas here. The little boundary antenn...Some great ideas here. The little boundary antenna, for one. Also, noticing one's own feelings about being properly protective, rather than focusing on how other people respond. <BR/><BR/>Do you happen to be/have been a therapist, Debra?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-88736343188095960672007-09-29T20:44:00.000-04:002007-09-29T20:44:00.000-04:00Thanks Peggy. I must admit that this is still "a ...Thanks Peggy. I must admit that this is still "a work in progress" for me. I still have times in which that line can get crossed, brushed over, and even erased, but I am still trying. I think that some of it has to do with what my mindset is on any given day. <BR/><BR/>I like your idea of not dismissing your own boundaries by telling yourself that something was too little matter to discuss. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-8213213188517693282007-09-28T12:28:00.000-04:002007-09-28T12:28:00.000-04:00I admire your ability to recognize when to act. I...I admire your ability to recognize when to act. I find it hard to note the problem early enough. <BR/><BR/>One thing I'm doing in that direction is stopping telling myself: Oh, that was too little a matter to even discuss. <BR/><BR/>Do you have cues that tell you when it's time to speak up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-72952880961980051662007-09-26T17:30:00.000-04:002007-09-26T17:30:00.000-04:00I'm with you on that, Peggy! Part of what I have ...I'm with you on that, Peggy! Part of what I have had to learn by living with a chronic illness, is to speak up sooner. I no longer have the luxury of sitting back and allowing people to stomp all over my boundaries while I sit there with a submissive smile on my face.(Possibly one of the only good things that has come out of feeling crummy most of the time!) Time, age, and illness have all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com