tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post7937484632088380575..comments2024-01-12T04:51:30.233-05:00Comments on Peggy Payne's Boldness Blog: Trying Too Hard! Too Much! Overkill!Peggy Paynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-31099968131594695692008-11-15T14:58:00.000-05:002008-11-15T14:58:00.000-05:00I'd love to have a neighborhood curry shop, but wi...I'd love to have a neighborhood curry shop, but with no hot spice. Which is probably as weird as ordering beef curry.Peggy Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-28173136118378171462008-11-14T17:23:00.000-05:002008-11-14T17:23:00.000-05:00I don't think I'd have ever thought about that one...I don't think I'd have ever thought about that one either, but I can see where it makes sense.<BR/><BR/>We're just back from the neighborhood curry shop. A woman at the takeaway counter actually asked them if they did a beef curry. The two guys behind the counter blinked in disbelief, but one finally recovered enough to suggest lamb. But she wanted beef. Finally the guy had to tell her that Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08453685534547547051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-64353677799956100552008-11-14T17:21:00.000-05:002008-11-14T17:21:00.000-05:00Ummm, Irish stepdancing. :) Probably second only...Ummm, Irish stepdancing. :) Probably second only to ballet for un-natural dance form.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08453685534547547051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-7889561502530739032008-11-14T17:07:00.000-05:002008-11-14T17:07:00.000-05:00K.B., what kind of dancing?K.B., what kind of dancing?Peggy Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-25770119897953794002008-11-14T17:04:00.000-05:002008-11-14T17:04:00.000-05:00I remember licking an envelope once in India. Whi...I remember licking an envelope once in India. Which is simply not done there. One man never did get over it.Peggy Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-86490701874473855742008-11-14T16:59:00.000-05:002008-11-14T16:59:00.000-05:00I used to teach dancing -- "can't" wasn't allowed ...I used to teach dancing -- "can't" wasn't allowed in the studio. The dancers could say "I'm having some problems with this" or "I'm finding this difficult", but "I can't do this" was NOT allowed. The rationale was that telling ourselves that we can't do something meant that we were giving ourselves permission not to do it.<BR/><BR/>It's amazing how much effect those sorts of things have on us, Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08453685534547547051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-78857088609902527432008-11-14T11:02:00.000-05:002008-11-14T11:02:00.000-05:00Debbie, I love the idea that trying is trying too ...Debbie, I love the idea that trying is trying too hard. My shrink husband is always discouraging use of the word "trying" by his clients. It's in a slightly different context, but still similar. His attitude is simply do or don't do.<BR/><BR/>K.B., did you see the movie Summer of '42. There's a moment in there that for me sums up these kinds of moments. The 15 year old boy helping the Peggy Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14504076672775821088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-79613179245084968602008-11-13T11:06:00.000-05:002008-11-13T11:06:00.000-05:00Aargh. Painful indeed, if only because most of us...Aargh. Painful indeed, if only because most of us do in fact remember wanting sooooo badly to be liked, loved, wanted, or at least to be acknowledged, and trying far too hard to be any of those things.<BR/><BR/>At least she's getting the funny out of it!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08453685534547547051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14310824.post-47235865757685578012008-11-12T23:07:00.000-05:002008-11-12T23:07:00.000-05:00Hi Peggy,My best advice is that if we are "trying"...Hi Peggy,<BR/><BR/>My best advice is that if we are "trying", then we are trying too hard. If we allow people to enjoy us for who we are, then there is no confusion when we relax and the "real us" shines through.<BR/><BR/>You are likable and quite charming just the way you are. Be proud and if it's not enough for someone then tough on them!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>DebbieDebrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328458241519464529noreply@blogger.com