The answer to that question is not simple. In some situations, coping and making-the-best-of is all that can be done. And what's important is to avoid lingering shame at having done no more.
Other times, adapting is copping out.
How to tell the difference? I think we know in our guts which is which.
One exception: things that kids do to cope get a pass. As kids we simply don't have the resources to do everything we think we should have done back then.